The Angry Typist

The 2 weeks after the funeral, DW called me almost every day, sometimes 2-3 times a day. It got to the point that every time I heard her unique ringtone, I instantly became crossed and filled with rage. She inquired when I was going to take Daniel, when I was going to take over being his Representative Payee for his Social Security Disability benefits, and when I was going to take Daniel.

I had no time to breathe, or think, or process, or grieve. DW and the executor of Māmā’s Will, her brother AW (my uncle) were unyielding with phone calls and emails bombarding me with manufactured urgency to take Daniel without any written proof of dedicated funding from Māmā’s estate.

DW had stated that Daniel is self-mobile – he can get in & out of a chair and bed on his own. He can dress himself. He can make himself food and can feed himself. He can bathe himself and self-toilet. So, I was dumbfounded by what exactly this unbearable burden DW & AW were alleging. And the more DW & AW continued their efforts campaigning how DW is 93 years old and cannot ‘take care’ of Daniel, the more suspicious I became.

The harder the co-conspirators carried on their guerrilla tactics, the more they started to sound like internet scams. These scams fabricate a sense of immediate threat or opportunity to pressure the victim to act without thinking. This urgency is often created through threats like home foreclosure, demands for payment for a concocted problem, or a made-up emergency for a family member. 

Similarly, both DW and AW would have me think that Daniel is incredible physical burden which by DW’s own statements, I know he is not. And the list of excuses why I had to take Daniel RIGHT NOW are as follows:

• DW is 93
• Daniel is ‘disabled’
• DW cannot ‘take care’ of him
• DW didn’t want to die suddenly like Māmā with Daniel there
• I am Daniel’s ‘only’ surviving relative
• And because DW is 93

I am confident this is the sort of high-pressure ploy that manipulated, coerced, and/or compelled Māmā to promise all her assets to DW on the sole premise that she was going to outlive DW. Even though in the last year from what I understand, Māmā was mostly bed-ridden, binge watching DVDs while DW cooked all her meals.

This is what AW emailed me because I didn’t drop what I was doing and immediately responded to his phone call while I was at work in back-to-back meetings. This was only 8 days after Māmā died and 6 days after she was buried:

SEPTEMBER 6, 2025 AT 2:29 pm EMAIL FROM AW

Since I did not get any response from you, I’m assuming that you are ignoring my emails.  Nevertheless, I’m going to do my part and convey the following message from DW to you.  Please know that Daniel is not our responsibility, nor is he your’s.  However, you being his only surviving relative, if you fail to take over his care, there is no one else going to do that.

Having said that, the following is from DW.

She is going to see the attorney on September 17th and hopefully by that time, the death certificates for your mom should be here.  Please arrange to arrive here shortly after September 17th to open your mom’s safety deposit box.  Additionally, DW will close out all your mom’s accounts and give you for the time being, a total of $10,000.  This money is for Daniel’s relocation. You can then leave with that money plus the jewelry in the Safety Deposit box.  You will have to take Daniel with you and deposit him at the assisted living facility you selected for him.  DW cannot take care of him or handle him.

If you cannot arrange an assisted living facility for Daniel, then DW is going to look for one here and send him there.  She can no longer take care of him at all.

The Social Security benefits have to be taken care of before the end of October.  It needs to reapply annually in November.  Certainly Daniel cannot afford to lose those benefits.

The house is going to be placed on the market shortly.  The proceeds after all the expenses are going to be split between you and Daniel (50%) and DW (50%).  My 10% plus expenses as stated in the will will be deducted before giving to you, Daniel and DW.

This is all I’m going to tell you and I’m not going to wait for your response.  There is no need to contact me again.  It is just a courtesy to respond to someone who asked you some questions or gave you some information.  Totally ignoring me is just not acceptable.  I’ll do what’s necessary and you can do the same.  Like I said, Daniel is not DW’s responsibility.  If you can find some kindness in your heart to look after him, it is better for him.

SEPTEMBER 6, 2025 AT 2:36 pm EMAIL FROM AW

Since I did not get any response from you, I’m assuming that you are ignoring my emails.  Nevertheless, I’m going to do my part and convey the following message from DW to you.  Please know that Daniel is not DW’s responsibility, nor is he your’s.  However, you being his only surviving relative, if you fail to take over his care, there is no one else going to do that.

Having said that, the following is from DW.

She is going to see the attorney on September 17th and hopefully by that time, the death certificates for your mom should be here.  Please arrange to arrive in Georgia shortly after September 17th to open your mom’s safety deposit box.  Additionally, DW will close out all your mom’s accounts and give you for the time being, a total of $10,000.  This money is for Daniel’s relocation. You can then leave with that money plus the jewelry in the Safety Deposit box.  You will have to take Daniel with you and deposit him at the assisted living facility you selected for him.  DW cannot take care of him or handle him.

If you cannot arrange an assisted living facility for Daniel, then DW is going to look for one here and send him there.  She can no longer take care of him at all.

The Social Security benefits have to be taken care of before the end of October.  It needs to reapply annually in November.  Certainly Daniel cannot afford to lose those benefits.

The house is going to be placed on the market shortly.  The proceeds after all the expenses are going to be split between you and Daniel (50%) and DW (50%).  My 10% plus expenses as stated in the will will be deducted before giving to you, Daniel and DW.

This is all I’m going to tell you and I’m not going to wait for your response.  There is no need to contact me again.  It is just a courtesy to respond to someone who asked you some questions or gave you some information.  Totally ignoring me is just not acceptable.  I’ll do what’s necessary and you can do the same.  Like I said, Daniel is not DW’s responsibility.  If you can find some kindness in your heart to look after him, it is better for him.